Lilies-of-the-Valley
When I was a little girl in Wisconsin, I loved to check the side of our house each spring. I searched for tiny white globes, dainty bells that hung from long, graceful stalks. Once I found them, I’d lean in and take a deep breath.
Ah… lilies-of-the-valley…
The perfume made me dizzy, and I loved it.
The Latin term for these beauties is Convallaria majalis and the buds are called pips. Vallaria. Pips.
Yes, mystic little tinkling messengers of sleep, the lily-of-the-valley.
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Daffodils
When Benjamin and I got married, I held a bouquet of daffodils during our quiet ceremony.
Daffodils belong to the botanical family, Narcissus. Poets like Keats and Shakespeare have lauded the daffodil. It was fitting that I carried this flower of myth and poesy, because I was marrying Benjamin, and I was marrying my art at the same time.
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Lilacs
Mrs. Ingeborg Konkel was our baby sitter. My brothers and I loved her. We loved how she said, “Oof Da,” every time she got up from her chair. We loved how she patiently (and sleepily) endured our magic shows and dance performances. Most of all, we loved how she carried salt water taffy in her pockets, made us sliced apples sprinkled with cinnamon and sugar for our afternoon treat, and always had caramel apples at Halloween.
We associated sweetness with Mrs. Konkel, and sweetness followed her into her yard where she grew lilacs. I loved going to those shrubs and burying my face in the fleecy blossoms. I wanted to taste those candy flowers.
The genus name for lilac is Syringa vulgaris. Translated from Greek and Latin, this means ‘common pipe.’ There is a myth about a nymph (of course there is) named Syringa. Pan was in love with her, so he chased her (of course he did). Syringa turned herself into a flowery tree to avoid a tryst with Pan (of course she did). And what does Pan like to play? Ah, the lilac flute…
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Prairie
Summer in the Midwest meant wild flowers.
My favorites were Shasta daisies, purple clover, tiger lilies, and Queen Anne’s lace.
Daisies grew with the purple clover in the field behind my neighbor’s barn. Tammy and I waded around those happy flowers, careful not to trample, as we picked clover blossoms and nibbled on them. I loved being surrounded by smiley flowers and biting into sips of honey.
If you tie the stems of daisies together, forming a daisy chain, the flowers can protect your child from being stolen by fairies. The daisy is also a symbol in Catholicism for Mother Mary.
‘To live in clover’ is an idiom that means to live a carefree, happy life. Clover leaflets are symbols of the Holy Trinity and considered good luck.
Tiger lilies grew next to our raspberry bushes. Each morning, when I picked raspberries for my cereal, I took a moment to look at the dark purple dots on those bright orange petals. I’d take my sketchpad and color pencils to them. Tiger lilies were one of the first flowers that taught me to really pay attention as I drew, to look closely at colors, to see detail.
It was once believed that if you leaned in to smell a tiger lily, you’d get freckles. Guess that’s how I got mine. Lilies also keep away evil and provide nectar for hummingbirds.
With Queen Anne’s lace, it was the shape and texture that I loved and how those flowers looked different from all the others. They were fun to draw with pencil or ink, and they defined the prairie in all her wild beauty.
Queen Anne’s lace resembles poison hemlock. The crimson center is supposed to symbolize the blood of Queen Anne as she pricked her finger while making lace. Bob Dylan includes both clover and Queen Anne’s lace in his song, “You’re Gonna Make Me Lonesome When You Go.”
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Tropics
When we moved from Wisconsin to Florida, there were new flowers to discover, and I favored hibiscus and night blooming cactus.
Hibiscuses were vibrant, unfolding, and sassy. Symbols of the tropics, they were the flowers that women wore in their hair with party dresses, shawls, and dancing shoes. Hibiscus spoke Spanish. You could make paper from them and drink them as tea. Delicious.
Hibiscus flowers are associated with the Hindi goddess, Kali, and the name may have come from ‘ibis,’ the wading bird that supposedly favored the flower.
Night blooming cacti were miracle flowers. From our back patio at night, we would watch them come into bloom. It was amazing, and strangely out of place. Flowers like that should bloom in the cool of a desert night, not in humid Florida, but bloom they did, and by morning, they retreated. Quite the show.
There is a traditional Native American story about the night blooming cactus, and you can read about it here: www.southwestfolklife.org/did-you-see-her. This flower has also been called Queen of the Night and Christ in the Manger.
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MidAtlantic
When we lived in North Carolina, our landlord covered our yard with flowering trees and bushes. We had wisteria, yellow jasmine, gardenias, and hydrangeas.
The gorgeous, drooping lavender blooms of the wisteria were everything Southern- hypnotizing in color and aroma and beautifully relaxed. After the petals fell and scattered, I collected wisteria vines and tried sculpting with them. They were easy to twist into shapes, and I made a corset from them.
Yellow jasmine bloomed in January, and this bright color was welcome during that month. North Carolina does not have a long winter, nor is it particularly gray, but I still loved seeing so much color in a colder month. I picked long stems of yellow jasmine and kept vases of these flowers throughout our house.
I also tried picking gardenias, though I didn’t keep them for long inside. They were perfumy, at first, but as they sat in the water, their scent turned stronger, like skin emitting alcohol. Honestly, this was a comforting smell for me, but I couldn’t keep it throughout my house. Eventually, I stopped picking them and chose instead to sing “Dos Gardenias Para Ti” as I passed by, touching them lightly.
I loved the pom pom and periwinkle of hydrangeas. They didn’t really have a scent, but they filled out a vase beautifully. They felt vintage to me, like they belonged in an antique photograph.
Wisteria comes from the family Fabaceae, and ‘faba’ in Latin means ‘bean.’ Yellow jasmine has healing properties for conditions like measles and headaches. Gardenias belong to the Rubiceae or coffee family, and hydrangeas are associated with peaches, bats, and longevity.
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Petunias
Petunias were my song flower. I grew these deep purple, velvety petals in hanging baskets on our front porch in North Carolina.
When I was a child, recovering from surgery, my Mom used to sing Arthur Godfrey’s “I’m a Lonely Little Petunia” to me. In the song, a petunia is sad, because she’s in an onion patch, so she cries, ‘boo hoo.’ When my mom got to the crying part, she’d sing it with extra drama to make me laugh. Somehow in doing this, she taught me not to feel sorry for myself and to get through physical pain with a little laughter.
Which brings me to the reason why I am featuring flowers on this post. Yes, it’s late summer, and I have watched a parade of flowers around me since April. My landlords and neighbors have grown many of the flowers listed here and more, and I’ve enjoyed every changing bloom.
But there’s another reason why I am compelled to write about flowers. I may be headed for the onion patch again. I may need surgery for a new hip.
If I do decide to do this, I will not ‘boo hoo.’ And I will change any new scars I endure into tattoos. Just like I did with my first scars. I may get some lilacs, daffodils, Queen Anne’s lace, or petunias…
With a new, ‘bionic’ hip, I may be able to take longer walks again. I will be able to wander, ride a bike for miles and miles and miles without pain. And I could dance again… all with flowers on my hip, flowers on my hip.